Wedding Update #1

Hey! How’s it going?

I’m really sorry for the lack of updates. Things started going cray right after the proposal. I joined a bunch of wedding groups and they strongly emphasized to start booking suppliers early. And that I did; my mom thought I was nuts. And because I got super focused on the wedding, work started to pile up so I had to attend to that after. But, now, I’m sort-of back! So I’ll just update you on what we’ve checked off from our list so far,

Okay, wait. Initially, I didn’t want to do wedding updates in this blog because you know, life. See paragraph above. Then, I realized this is something I want to document and maybe look back on years from now.

Date –  February 4, 2018

Our family is guided by feng shui especially when it comes to dates. My mom was very adamant that we find a lucky day for our wedding.

Side story: When I got home after our beach trip, I was joking that my mom might have a date already. And she did!

It took quite a while before we finalized the date. If given a choice, we (Kit & I) would’ve wanted a ber-month wedding para medyo malamig pa. My mom, together with her contacts, tried to find us a date during the ber months but there were none. There was only one date (Feb 4, 2018) and the next good one would be two years from now.

Church – St. Therese Parish

My parents are really traditional so they wanted me to get married at our hometown. We (Kit & I) also decided that this was the wisest choice because a.) It would be waaay cheaper b.) Most churches in Manila would’ve been booked already since we had less than a year to plan. We chose a small parish, my high school’s parish, where my parents and brothers got married. Nice, noh?

Reception and Caterer – Gloria Maris Dagupan, CSI Stadia

This was really a no-brainer. Chinese wedding= Chinese food. We got our relative who owns a Chinese restaurant. The venue is already packaged with the caterer. We’re already familiar with the venue and honestly, it may be the best in the city.

Photographer – Jaja Samaniego

Before we started looking for suppliers, Kit and I talked about our non-negotiables. One of mine was that the photographer and videographer should come from Manila, or at least not from Dagupan. I wanted my wedding to be different from other weddings held in our town and I knew if I got a local one, my photos would definitely look like my brother’s.

This was probably the hardest decision by far. We wanted our photos to be bright and happy. Also, since we’re both not good in front of the camera, we tried to find a photographer that can capture moments without the need to direct us too much. We want genuine emotions and not those fake smiles.

We shortlisted, I think, four photographers: three from Manila and one from Baguio. We got their rates and ranked them based on their rates first and then work next. We narrowed them to two after talking to them through e-mail. Ultimately, we chose Jaja because we think she offered the best package for the price. We got the Wedding + Album and Prenup from her.

We met her after a month of communication and I could say that I liked her aesthetic. Even her office was immaculate- simple but classy. I was slightly intimidated and nervous while we were on our way to her office but soon realized that I had nothing to worry about when we shook hands. We booked her that day.

Videographer – Woodstock Cinema

I was not that much particular with the videographer. All I wanted was that they came from Manila. I left the research to Kit and he found Woodstock Cinema. They are relatively new to the wedding scene so their rates are competitive. They suggested that we meet them at a bridal fair para we get to save money. Sakto rin kasi Kit & I were scheduled to meet in Manila that weekend.

I loved them the moment we met them. They’re very friendly and I’d say, kalog. They gave us free aerial coverage and a possible coverage the night before the wedding if ever merong dinner or what-not. They also offered a staggered payments option during the fair which I think was generous of them considering na they’re new lang

Host – Filbert and Shanda Uy

One of the things that someone told me to do and I wished I listened to was to book a host ASAP. See, Chinese weddings GREATLY depend on auspicious dates. It is not a shock for certain dates to be very busy with Chinese weddings leading to a shortage of Chinese hosts. Unlike regular wedding hosts whose basic requirement would be to speak Filipino or English fluently, Chinese hosts also need to speak AND sing Mandarin/Fookien very well. Hindi sulit kung hindi kumakanta ang host.

I was busy with work so I let Kit handle this one too. He messaged SEVERAL hosts asking for their availability. I think he asked more than five and guess what, most of them were already booked; two (most famous) did not reply and one rejected us. I followed-up with one of the in-demand ones (Jerome Go) via Messenger but he was also booked. I really commend him because I felt he really wanted to work with us but in the end, he chose to be professional and not let anything compromise my and his other event. He even offered to look for a host for us.

I asked others for recommendations and we were able to ask more people. In the end, I think we had three choices. We narrowed it again to two and chose the one who sings. Haha.

Later on, the other famous host, finally replied and said he was already booked on our date. SINCE LAST YEAR. CHINESE WEDDINGS BE CRAYYYY.

OTD Coordinator- Kiss The Girl

OTD coordination was not one of the suppliers I wanted to splurge on because I thought on-the-day lang and most probably, they haven’t worked with our local suppliers yet. I was thinking they might have a hard time coordinating if that’s the case.

I still asked for the rates of the Manila-based OTD coordinators just to have some baseline when I started looking locally.

I found two coordinators in our city and contacted them both. I got turned off by the first one I texted so I was planning on getting the second one I found. Some issue suddenly appeared and it needed time to get resolved. Kit & I decided that we won’t wait for it anymore. He messaged Kiss The Girl and talked to Arbee. I’ve been reading a bunch of good reviews about them so wala talagang hesitation on my part. Kit was okay with their rates given na our guest list will be a bit big so we booked them.

Prenup Stylist- Indie Hippie (Halsy)

When we asked Jaja the best time for a prenup shoot, she suggested a few months before the wedding but before their peak months starting September. Our wedding was set on Feb kaya the ‘ideal’ months would obviously fall on their busiest.

After talking to everyone involved, we settled on August hopefully before the rainy season fully sets in kasi we plan on doing it in the beach.

Because our theme was laid-back and casual, I did not think we needed a stylist. I guess Kit thought na we would not have much time to conceptualize or plan the layouts so he suggested we get a stylist. We did find a reasonable package with Indie Hippie kasi it included the make-up na plus no OOTF if we pick them up.

Priest

I had not planned on choosing our priest but I wanted someone I knew. Wala naman akong ka-close na priest kaya I let this thought go but my family suggested we get this one. I do know him but I’ve always been shy in front of him. I won’t disclose who he is kasi I’m not sure if pwede. Hehe.

I’m glad that he’s available on our date but also nervous at the same time. He wants to meet us personally before the wedding which I am excited to go to 🙂 It makes me feel like he wants to know us more and not give a generic homily during the wedding. Haha. Tell me if ganito lahat ng priests.

 

Hmm.. I think that’s it for now. I’ve met with two designers already and I’m close to booking one. I love his design process that involves me giving him so much input. It also doesn’t hurt that he made my prom gowns, my mom’s ninang and MOG gowns and one of my brother’s entourage gowns 😉

I’ve also scheduled a trial with a potential HMUA and been talking to different stylists for the church and reception. We have a potential lights and sounds supplier and band na.

What else… Oh, entourage list is also almost done. Ang hirap pala kapag malaki ang family tapos parehong bunso ang couple. Hehe. Hint: We’re going to have 10 flower girls 😛

I guess that’s it.

See ya soon!

Guess what?

I’m getting married!

My next blog series was supposed to be about our beach trip in Siargao but I decided to slip in a post because I wanted to share something quite significant.

Last week, Kit staged this sweet and simple proposal with our friends in our favorite place, Montemar Beach Resort. It was everything I wanted the proposal to be- simple, intimate and meaningful.

The trip was supposed to be just my trip with friends but Kit’s friends also wanted a “beach trip”. The place was already fully booked when they inquired so they were waitlisted. A day before the trip, someone cancelled so Kit and his friends got their rooms. I learned that Kit already booked the rooms last month so the resort wasn’t really “fullybooked”. Sweet.

On the day of the trip, I woke up with a stomach bug and that made me contemplate if I still wanted to go. The resort was a four-hour drive from my house and I know there weren’t any reliable bathrooms on the way. Okay, sorry for the TMI. I decided to just go ahead since it’s been a long time since I saw my friends. #YOLO. My initial plan was to leave at 8AM so I could still make it in time for lunch at the resort but I left the house past 9AM already.  Kit and my friends got there first and were just waiting for me to arrive.

Just before 1PM, I finally arrived. What relief! I already drank medicines before leaving the house so I was all good but nevertheless, at least I had one less thing to worry about. We had lunch but just us girls. I was set on just focusing on my girls weekend and Kit was doing the same. We weren’t together all day; just the casual greetings whenever we crossed paths.
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At dinnertime, Kit and his friends got to the restaurant first. By the time we got there, I didn’t see them anymore and  I thought they were already in their rooms. After we finished our meal, we decided to go out and walk along the shore to have a photoshoot. We were wearing dresses because we were going to have a “Wine Night” in our room. Hahahahaha.

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The stars were abundant and shining,  and the waves were a joy to hear; soothing to the soul (naks). My friends were carrying flashlights kasi they said it would be dark. I remember Kit messaging me saying how bright the stars were and after a few meters, we saw some people sitting on the sand. I couldn’t see clearly who they were but they were waving to us so I just assumed it was Kit and his friends. As we were nearing them,  Eka grabbed my arm and led me closer to the water. I felt a slight nervousness and just told her,  “‘Wag mo naman ako lunurin, girl” or something like that. She handed me a note and they were holding the flashlight above me so I could read it. I knew then what was happening. I read Kit’s letter and I just started ugly crying. HAHAHAHA. I didn’t know what to do after reading it so I was just waiting. They asked me,  “Tapos mo na basahin?” When I said yes, they turned me around and there was Kit– standing in the middle of LED lights on the sand. I went closer to him and he knelt down and asked me to marry him. I don’t know where my voice went. I nodded and he started putting the ring on my left ring finger but because I am me, I asked him “Sa left ba? o sa right?” HAHHAHAHA. We honestly didn’t know so he put it on the right instead. We hugged each other and turned to face the crowd. IT WAS SO AWKWARD. ANO BA ANG GINAGAWA AFTER MA-ENGAGE?? I didn’t know know so I KEPT WAVING TO THEM AND SAYING THANK YOU. HAHAHAHA. Napansin ko lang ito after watching the videos.

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After all the photos and congratulations, we headed to our room to finally have our Wine Night… but in our pajamas.

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Cheers!

It was a weekend of fun, friendships and love. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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Photo credits:
Eka & Jegs

2016

With 2016 coming to a close,  I’d like to share with you the things I learned this year:

  • You are your worst enemy 

Earlier this year, I joined my first 21K Marathon by Nike. It took me months before I finally decided to sign up mainly because I was not sure I could finish 21 kilometers of running. I kept thinking I wasn’t ready; I haven’t logged that much miles in yet. I kept saying “Ang kapal naman ng mukha kong sumama sa 21K.” I focused on my failures that I did not see my potential.  I’m grateful my breastfriend convinced me to challenge myself and I’m proud to say that I exceeded my expectations. Ang goal ko lang naman kasi ay hindi maging last, haha!– my time was about 3 hours and 2 minutes.

  • Your only competition should be yourself 

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In Crossfit, I remember being the last one to finish a WoD and I felt really defeated. It discouraged me to attend classes because I was ashamed of being last.  When I started training for the 21K, I forced myself to regularly attend sessions even when I knew I would hate the WoD. I started feeling better about myself not because I was the #1 in the stats board but because I was feeling better with what I could accomplish with my body. I didn’t mind what was on the board anymore as long as I completed the WoD alive and kicking! Bonus na lang if my time is better than my time before or others’ 🙂

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Time

I found this file dated November 2015 stashed in a flash drive. I think this was supposed to be my first blog entry but scrapped it. I don’t really remember the reason why but knowing me, it might be because it was too.. I don’t know,  personal? Anyway, posting it now! 🙂

I recently posted a tweet saying I was going to work out after seeing photos from the Victoria Secret Fashion Show because you know, VS Angels. My friend responded telling me she wished she could buy more time since she was so busy with work and her business. I read her tweet while I was stuck in traffic (as always) on my way to work, and it got me thinking. Isn’t it ironic that time has been said to never end, yet time is always what we always say we need more of?

When I was a kid, I had a collection of Barbie dolls. I lived my imaginary adult life through my dolls. She would be strutting down the runway (Yes, I once dreamed of being a fashion model) with her long legs and narrow waist. I couldn’t wait to grow up and do the same.

When I was in college, I began feeling like somehow time was going by fast. I had so much to do with so little time. Sophomore year gave me six days of classes. I was suffering by then I called my mom and just broke down. I wanted college to be over soon because I didn’t want the work anymore. Of course, college was still fun but I (or maybe all of us) wanted it to be over. I wanted my freedom; I wanted my own money; I wanted my new life.

When I started working, time went by faster. I also began to notice something. Everybody was in a rush. Everybody wanted to be first. Projects needed to be delivered the shortest time possible because this might mean repeat business or opportunities for more business. The less time you take in completing one task, the more tasks you can complete in a period of time. On the other hand, looking at the roads here in Metro Manila, you will notice how utterly selfish drivers can be. From counter-flowing to blocking intersections, drivers have a way of ruining your day just so they can go first. Somehow time and ultimately, going first became the priority.

The belief that doing more with little time has taken over our way of life. Most of the people I know don’t have time to eat breakfast before going to work for fear of being late. We sacrifice a thing or two in the morning just to make it in time for work. We are always in a hurry, hopping from one thing to the next. This is why we don’t have enough time. We don’t know how to stop anymore. We get antsy if we’re not doing anything and yet, on days when we have to do a lot of things, that’s when we just want to lie down and not move.

What I want to say is, we do have enough time but we don’t have it now. We want everything now because we’ve been told to do everything now.

Now that I am adult working in this fast-paced city, I want to go back to being that messy kid just wishing to grow up. I want to go back to that life that did not need to be lived quickly (and full of projects) in order to feel accomplished; to that life when eating a bar of Hershey’s chocolate was the heaven I only needed. Since I can’t possibly do that, this is where this (whatever this is) comes in. This is my nth attempt at writing to let ideas just flow. I wouldn’t want to call it a blog as this pressures me into writing for the blog’s sake. I’m just going to take this one rambling at a time and see where it goes. Let’s just say this is me on a chocolate-high.

 

 

Three

Years ago, every New Year’s eve, I remember myself wondering if by next year I’d have someone to celebrate the New Year with. Any holiday, actually. I wasn’t sad or desperate or anything. I just really wanted to know when will be the time I’d have someone to jump with, toast with and hug come midnight.

Few years passed and I still had no one. I was fine. I was okay. Work was great and our family just overcame a difficult time. I was resting. I was content. But as they say, best things happen when you least expect the most.

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